I like people that are funny, silly, strong-willed, and knowledgeable. I quickly lose respect for anyone who's too much of a pansy or shows absolutely no interest in learning new things. And while I can like and enjoy someone without much of a sense of humor, I'd rather be around people that crack me up. It's also important to me that people I'm close to have a strong sense of right and wrong, and act accordingly.
This is a timely topic for me because I've been having conflict with a couple of my coworkers this month, which is new for me. One told me I'd hurt her feelings and the other told me to stop intimidating her. Crap. Obviously, it's time for me to work on my communication skills! I talked it over with Mr. Polly and practiced some better strategies.
Just to clarify, the two ladies I've had trouble with do tend to be tempermental, and the one who said to stop intimidating her speaks English as a second language. I hope she meant to say stop trying to tell her what to do, which would have made a lot more sense, given the misunderstanding that we had.
I'm not a total bitch at work (or anywhere else) as far as I know. Don't be scared to talk to me, people! I felt really awful about this and am working on it. But I do really prefer to hang out with and work with people that can take directness without getting upset. It's such a time-saver.
Too bad we don't get to choose our coworkers. I'm comforting myself with the knowledge that I can learn to talk to these ladies in a way they'll understand and that 75% of my coworkers tell me how delighted they are when we're assigned to the same wing/that they miss me when we're not.